So he doesn’t light my fire, and doesn’t feed my ego in the company of strangers. It might be great at first with some guy you don’t like that much otherwise. A guy you don’t like all that much anyway whom you don’t like to fuck much either anymore. Quiet your mind and wait for the answer to come to you.
I hate myself even for admitting it; it’s just so superficial. Insight is a complex computation; it can take days on our little computers. Some things are painful and sad and wrong but nonetheless true.
Dear Cary, Currently I’m dating a man who just won’t leave my consciousness, not for a moment. I’ve made a conscious effort to look past it (“it” being my own stupid, shallow, superficial, counterproductive reaction to the weight), but there it is, all of the time.
My problem is this: This wonderful man with whom I’ve shared some amazing moments and do share a phenomenal connection … He’s not merely out of shape or a hike and a swim away from fit, he’s fat.
Societal standards of beauty are not only arbitrary but often literally impossible to achieve without Photoshop and make-up and there are assholes out there who feel empowered to mock fat people with impunity.Most guys will try to chase the woman around the bar and try to impress her.Every once in a while, I like to poll my readers on the Nerd Love Facebook Page and on Twitter to find out what issues they feel are holding them back when it comes to dating. Hoping to break out of that "fat guy" label and score with beautiful women...without resorting to the stale, scumbag pick-up strategies found in every run-of-the-mill dating guide?One part advice, one part story-telling, draws readers in to a world where the overweight ladies’ man can truly prosper in the dating scene.